Chats Over Coffee #0.5
Romantic Things I want to Experience
Disclaimer: this was written as a Valentine’s Day post so it is incredibly cringe and quite literally a brain dumped bullet list of random things I like.
As much as I want to pretend that I’m not a romantic or that I don’t need love or companionship, I’m a huge sucker. I love romance. I love being in love and sharing your life with someone who understands you. The reader in me wishes I lived in an epic romance novel where I’m loved unconditionally and receive all the small corny things I read about. But alas, I unfortunately live in the real world where love is about as rare as a clean NYC subway.
Throughout the years, I’ve realized that I’m not much for big gestures (though I do love them). I more so appreciate the little things and quality time. I love to know that I’m important and that I’m worth giving the world to. I know I can give everything to myself (I’m a very independent woman), but I’d love to one day be taken care of without conditions or obstacles or protests.
My list of “romantic” experiences grows the more my interests develop. I know that many things I want might not sound romantic to others, but it’s about being thoughtful and this is what my list consists of.
Obviously, standing below my window with a boombox over your head while the rain pelts on your skin. This might not happen since boomboxes aren’t a thing anymore, but I’ve always wanted to know how embarrassing this really feels. It’s corny, but as an avid rain lover (or pluviophile, if you will), getting to experience this very embarrassing moment would be iconic.
Dancing in the rain – there’s clearly a rain theme happening but did y’all see that scene in HSM3? ICONIC & SO ROMANTIC!! I just feel like it would be so thoughtful and carefree to be spun around while it rains and laugh till our bellies ache.
Sharing activities – since I’m talking about the rain, I have to give it to my day one… Twilight. Anyone who knows me knows that the second it’s gloomy outside, all I want to do is watch the Twilight Saga. I’d love to share that with my romantic partner, but it’s not something I want to ask for. I simply want it to be raining outside and my partner shows up with pizza and cozy PJ’s and stays with me all day watching these fantastic movies with me.
Going hand in hand with this is books. I’d love to have a love where we don’t have to say anything to each other. They could be playing video games or drawing but they want to be near me. So, I grab a book and some tea, and we just bask in each other’s company.
I also love running errands, so having someone that just shows up out of nowhere: “get dressed, I’m running errands”… I would giggle like a schoolgirl.
Also, starting a show together and only watching it with each other. I think that’s so romantic and I love tv/movies, so this is right down my alley.
Podcasts – This sounds stupid, I know, but hear me out. I love listening to podcasts and I’ve come across some awesome married duos who share a podcast together. If I do get married one day, I’d want to have a podcast. Maybe it’s not something we share with the world. But, just something we can do to spend time together every week. We just sit down and record a random conversation about memes or true crime or what’s been on our minds. Down the line, we’ll share it with our kids or listen to it ourselves and laugh.
Goal dates- I’m very futuristic and I live my life based on the things I want to accomplish or be. I love writing down my goals and planning my day and sharing that with someone special. My ideal date would be doing an activity like laser tag or an arcade or skydiving, idk. But, my ideal date also involves dreaming. There’s nothing more romantic and sexy to me than a person with ambition and dreams. We can stay inside, cook together and talk about the dreams we don’t share with anyone else. We can brainstorm how to get it done and support each other. I don’t want to be in a relationship that lacks creativity and vision. I want a relationship where we’re both such goals because of how we carry ourselves and go after every dream no matter how crazy.
Love letters- Growing up, some of my favorite books were ones with letters in them. It didn’t have to be romantic, it could just be letters between friends. But, I’ve always loved them. Unfortunately, I didn’t grow up in an age where letters were a thing. That doesn’t mean that I don’t have hope to one day receive a love letter. It’s so thoughtful and romantic when someone takes the time to find paper and write down what’s on their mind. They tell you how they feel about you and the relationship. They share memories and dreams. There’s nothing better than handwritten declarations of love.
Sleep messages- Obviously, technology rules the world now, but I’d love to wake up to paragraphs. I think it’s especially romantic when things aren’t necessarily the best between you guys. But, they still want to reassure you that everything is okay and they still love you. I’d love to wake up and just see that even though we’re in troubled waters, they’re still thinking about me. It also doesn’t have to be because something is wrong, it could just be that they want to appreciate everything I do for them and tell me how beautiful I am.
Flowers – I’ve never been a lover of receiving flowers (or gifts for that matter). But, as I grow older and get in touch with my femininity, I’ve grown to appreciate them. I love tulips, red daisies and red dahlias. I’d love to get “just because” flowers. No special birthday or anniversary. Just a simple gift to show me they’re thinking of me.
I’ve also seen “book bouquets” on Tik Tok and I literally cry because of how much thought and care goes into them. It takes a special type of person to sit there and craft something for their partner to show they care.
That’s also something I’d love to experience. A gift or activity so thoughtful, something I didn’t have to plan or ask for. Just something I mentioned once and it stuck with them.
Travel – I love traveling. I haven’t been to many places, but I’d love to travel the world with my partner. Get to experience new cultures and food. OMG I love food. I also love hotels. Like just packing up and staying in a hotel. Growing up, I didn’t go to hotels often so anytime I go to one now I feel so bougie and happy. I don’t think I’ve ever shared that with anyone. But yes, hotels and weekend trips make me so incredibly happy.
I’d love to go to Oregon, Georgia and Washington to visit the sets of Halloweentown, Twilight and Vampire Diaries. How cool would that be? I get to walk on the same ground that Edward or Damon did.
Outdoor movies – I want to live my country girl dreams. I want to be in the back of a pickup truck that has a bunch of blankets and pillows and we just watch a movie under the stars.
Valentine’s Day – I don’t really like the idea of Valentine’s Day. I’ve always felt that your partner should be special and treated special every day of the year. That being said, I still want to experience the holiday. I want to wake up to breakfast in bed, flowers. Spending the day together doing an activity and then ending the night with a nice romantic dinner.